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Why Simmer exists

DDiwata
Diwata
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Diwata, 32
Joined Simmer last quarter · 3 stories shared
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Akala ko walang nakakaintindi with what I'm going through. Shared my experience with limited and appropriate amount of details kasi yung lang kaya kong i-share...

That's it. That's the whole thing.It's just nice to be heard and further explain my situation sa comment section to those who cared to read and respond to my question.
One of 2,843 stories shared on Simmer this week

Your first night

No pressure.
Share yours pag ready ka na.

  1. 01
    Choose your alias. Be anonymous.

    Hindi mo need mag face reveal. Come as you are. Freely share your thoughts without worrying na bukas may magpi-PM sa'yo ng

    "Hi! For sure di mo ko kilala, pero I exist sa buhay niya..."

    —
  2. 02
    Scroll stories and share your wisdom to the community.

    Walang pressure mag-post agad. Most people lurk for a week. Or even a month before mapa-comment. Yung iba years pa nga bago mag share ng stories nila.

    Comments earn you nothing, but they mean everything sa mga nag-i-struggle. The first stranger who replies to you is something you'll remember.

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  3. 03
    Pag handa ka na, ikuwento mo na.

    The more you hold it alone, the heavier it gets. You'll never know if may taong nakakagets ng struggle mo if you will not ask.

    Share enough details without oversharing then read the community comments.

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Your first 30 days

Hindi naman kami nagmamadali.

Sana ikaw din. Just get what you need from the community. Hindi ka required to share your story right at the bat.

Day 1
You pick your alias.
Use our random name generator. Pick the best alias that suits your personality.
Day 3
You read a post that hits.
Hindi mo kilala yung nag-post, pero you feel like that's your story but another person is posting it.
Day 7
Your first comment.
Natrigger ka. You affirm the sender and that's when you started engaging with the community
Day 9
First reply from a stranger.
Napapareply ka na sa mga nagrereply sa comment mo. Ooops! Take it easy, wala ka dapat patunayan ha.
Day 14
You start recognizing names.
Napapasabi ka nalang na "Si ano to ha!"
Day 19
Your first story.
This is it pancit! Naririnig mo na inner voice mo telling you "My time has come!
Day 22
You wake up to twelve replies.
You felt validated and reassured na hindi lang ikaw yung nag-i-struggle sa current situation mo.
Day 30
You level up with the community
Nag stay ka with the community. You learned and help give smart advice, now you're rewarded with Simmer gifts and other opportunities to progress your journey.
◍Hindi linear yung growth, healing and maturity in relationships but it is easier with a community. Progress at your own pace with simmer and come help build a safe community with us.

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Honest questions

Mga tanong na natatanong namin sa sarili namin.

  • Hindi. Simmer is a community first — singles, healing, dating again, in long relationships, all in the same room. May dating app pa rin, we will integrate it here soon.

  • Tama lang yun. Marami sa mga members namin lurk for weeks before posting. May iba, hindi nag-post hanggang ngayon pero they are engaging by comments and replies.

  • Free version exists. You can still FULLY enjoy engaging with the community.

  • Yes. You pick an alias. Hindi ipinapakita ang real name, email, o phone number mo. This is a safe community.

  • Eto talaga purpose ng community, to tackle everything about relationships and not exclusively for seeking dating opportunities. Healing post-breakup. Learning to be single without it being a problem to solve. Figuring out what 'love wisely' means. Dito nagaganap ang Filipino conversation about relationships.

  • Sa umpisa, oo. Tapos one day, you'll realize na it is easier to open up with strangers kasi they will never judge you but just based their response sa situation mo.

  • Hindi na mawawala yun sa isang community. But here's the good news! We have moderators to keep this as a safe community for everyone. You can always report bad behavior from members and we will respond accordingly.

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